Being a High Achiever often originates in High Pressure Environments – Pre and Post Birth.
Mainstream approaches suggest this is all conditioning by parents, siblings, teachers, peers, and society.
That’s surface level; epigenetics confirms this.
I’ve discussed prenatal and preverbal trauma, adverse childhood experiences,
near-death experiences, and trauma, many times.
How in an instant at 14, my life changed
when my father said – HE’S GONE…
The grief, regret, shame, the LOSS – HIT HARD,
and my toolbox was full of the wrong tools.
I’d spent my life to this point controlling my
external environment, stacking negatively
impactful events, rarely letting my guard down,
and striving to achieve, to be successful.
There are two reasons for this,
I (still) enjoy being very good at whatever I’m
doing, it used to be a way of feeling safe, also.
In my teens, I was extremely (physically) fit,
but lost my appetite and developed asthma,
“Coincidentally”, around the same time.
Carbohydrates were predominant in my diet; it’s the fastest way to feed a system in overdrive.
A nervous system locked in sympathetic dominance – the chronic activation of fight or flight – burns through glucose at a rate that demands constant replenishment.
The body isn’t failing. It’s doing exactly what it’s designed to do.
Carbohydrates are fast fuel for a system that believes, on a biological level, that the threat is still present.
Alcohol helps bring the system back into a manufactured state of balance, regulation.
(A balanced breakfast being eaten intentionally)
As do any of your chosen mechanisms.
The beauty of understanding my life as I do now is that I’ve built a garage full of tools…
…that can be swapped out in the moment with awareness, depending on the requirements.
Sovereignty- Adaptability – Flexibility.
Change across the whole human system,
Who Do You Want to Become – IDENTITY?
What do you uniquely need?
Nervous System – Mindset
Emotional – Physical – Spiritual.
SELF CONCEPT- BETTER HEALTH
WELLBEING – RELATIONSHIPS
Balance, connection, calmness,
peace, purpose, and aliveness,
without losing your edge.