Leader vs Winner – What’s the Difference?
Recently, in St. Tropez, while my friend and I were eating breakfast.
Mame Cafe and Restaurant – St Tropez – for Breakfast.
I couldn’t help overhearing an American
gentleman discussing traits, vibes, and life
with his children.
This guy was clearly a high achiever who had
done well in life,
it would make sense that they were on a
European tour,
not a short trip to the Côte d’Azur.
A healthy breakfast at Mama Cafe and Restaurant – St Tropez
He explained to his son how he used to
attempt to bring people together, not argue,
be the cause of conflicts, or get into conflict.
Until he realized that if he was going to be
successful in life, he would need to toughen up.
That he must have a voice and express it.
In life, he went on…
Others will walk all over you, do anything to get
what they want, at your expense if you allow it.
The last part in particular resonated with me,
having experienced manipulation, gaslighting,
and triangulation, for years in my business.
Being open and honest about my life means,
I don’t conveniently choose to forget my own
visceral drive to succeed and win at all costs.
What I didn’t understand at that time was
where the unhealthy levels of competitiveness,
will to win, and need to destroy anyone who
crossed swords with me, came from.
As I was rebuilding myself,
raising my levels of awareness (self).
I started applying the lessons I’d learned,
I would intend to uphold my boundaries, consciously,
as I built and embraced my new identity.
It was apparent that the father didn’t understand
what he was saying on a deeper level.
He was talking mindset, I was thinking system,
because you cannot reduce the human
organism into separate parts.
If I’d done that 12 years ago,
it would have taken years before
I experienced the levels of growth I did.
What he was inadvertently doing during his
lesson on life… was teaching his son on all
levels of his system… to be a WINNER.
Being a WINNER and Being a LEADER
are very different…
A leader makes conscious choices
that originate from integration and
regulation… a different state of being.
COHERENCE ACROSS THE SYSTEM
Not overdrive, sympathetic dominance, but…
Balance, Calmness, Peace, Aliveness, Purpose
Connection, Contentment, and Fulfillment,
without losing your edge.
In fact, your edge becomes sharper than ever.
Who do you want to be, a leader or a winner?
Your IDENTITY is key to you living your life
on your terms, from a heart-centered place,
with a sharper edge than you had previously.
What do you need to change right now?