Something important I realised when I decided to create a new identity, and life, in 2014.
Previously, the environment I was in, or walked into, changed the way my body felt, and my thinking.
In our business, office environment, I contracted, and became even more strategic.
At a customer site, it could go either way, screaming, or smiling clients were king.
This is where the professionalism mask would be worn, adapt, accommodate, do the job, “make the client happy”
and get out of there.
This is when my attention would be firmly placed on getting to my preferred environment.
Being at the pub with my friends, a trusted and safe environment, allowed the opposite.
In fact, I’d already be calming down miles before I reached my destination…
What I didn’t understand then, your body is pre-cognitive… it changes state before thinking.
This is your nervous system reading the environment for safety cues before conscious thought has a chance to weigh in, heart rate, breath, and muscle tension shift first, and the story your mind builds comes after.
How do you feel when you enter different environments, be them preferences or not?
Do you get a feeling in your stomach, tightening of muscles, what happens with your thoughts,
the story you start creating?
For many years my state hasn’t changed when I enter any room, environment, take Senequier…
…St Tropez, millionaires and billionaires, tourists and locals, the excellent staff.
I distinctly remember my state changing when I’d enter bars on a port, high class establishments riddled with wealth.
It would have been because of sympathetic dominance, functional freeze, and conditioning…
…my HRV would have been out of coherence.
The inner dialogue, judgement, of them, and myself…
uncomfortable when they discussed vast amounts of money, investments.
In Senequier, it’s par for the course, almost impossible not to hear the conversations.
Being comfortable in my own skin, in my identity, who I deeply am in the moment…
…means there is no dialogue, or comparison.
Just awareness, balance, calm, peace, aliveness, appreciation, contentment and fulfillment…
…change with a sharper edge.
Nervous System Regulation. Mindset. Emotional. Physical. Spiritual Growth.
A unique holistic approach is the only way, there is also no one way…
Who do you want to be in life?
Would you like a co-driver?