Suffering with stress


A traumatic experience in life, such as losing a loved one. Causes us to experience the stress response, and an emotion is assigned to it, we begin to feel differently inside. Our brain takes a mental photograph of this experience, producing a long-term memory. The stronger the experience, the stronger the emotion associated with it, this creating a stronger hold over you. Your body becomes conditioned in the past, you are controlled chemically and emotionally within the confines of that experience. A more powerful experience is required to break the bonds, allowing you to move from your resting state. If you experience a stronger experience, it is time for some big decisions. It is possible to achieve this without pain and suffering being associated with the new experience. There is no need for people to suffer, you should not have to make a change, because it is critical you do so. There is more understanding and help available now, than there ever has been to help you change.


Human beings bring on the stress response by simply thinking about something. When we think about the past, recalling a negative experience which caused the stress response, we anticipate the outcome of an event based on that recollection.

This starts the process, our brain and body don't know if it's happening in the real world or not. Working together, they can't differentiate between the two. Neurochemically it's the same experience, the outcome being identical. You are unaware this has happened, it's automatic.


The sympathetic nervous system is activated, part of the autonomic nervous system. The process of adrenaline (epinephrine) and cortisol being pumped into your blood stream, now begins. We are now in survival mode, fight or flight. The fight or flight response once aided us when predators were a threat. Today a perceived threat which has caused the autonomic nervous system to work in the same way, isn't going to hurt you. This natural response, that you are unaware of, triggered by your perceptions, is going to be detrimental to you, not help you.

Homeostasis (balance).

When we experience stress, the body is knocked out of homeostasis, or balance. With the realisation we are out of balance, we naturally look for the cause, this make the problem worse. The stress response is aimed at bringing the body and ourselves back to balance, allowing you to deal with an emergency.

Once the threat has passed, the parasympathetic nervous system is activated, rest and digest. This process returns you to the balanced state, that's how it should work.

When lions are chasing prey, the prey will experience stress, an unsuccessful attack would mean the danger is over. The animal would naturally calm down and carry on grazing. This is how the process normally happens.

No animal can live in stress for prolonged periods of time, while maintaining good health.


A large percentage of people in western society, are affected by stress. The stress response affects us all in different ways and for different reasons. Some people wondering why other people are stressing over something that wouldn't bother them.


Some stress is beneficial allowing us to complete a task, to get something done to a deadline, this acute stress isn't going to hurt you. Chronic stress, prolonged stress, is very different and left unchecked will lead to many health issues. Our perception of our environment leads to chronic stress and ill health.


A toxic environment within the body, brought on by stress and negativity, affects us on a cellular level. Leading to dis-ease, the no-cebo effect. Changing our perception of our environment, or changing our environment, with positivity, leads to a healthy inner environment and health, the pla-cebo effect.

General environments.

Environments containing negative people, that see no positives, and are generally down on life. Also, negative practices and behaviours, that can hold you back, will eventually be detrimental to your health, it'll also influence your perception of life. For you to move forward, change and grow, to make new habits, you will need to distance yourself from that environment.

It's important to mention, I enjoy being around my friends, in the environment I spent all my time in, which was detrimental to my health. You can spend time in that environment, when you and your relationship with it, are healthy.

Toxic working environment.

A working environment containing people that need to be in control and there are likely to be different reasons for this, can be dangerous. I've discussed these situations with numerous friends and people I know generally, the experiences within their own working environment, causing them pain. The personality conflicts, how they deal with them and work in general, when they don't know where to turn. Invariably, the result for a large percentage of them being, to leave the employment of that business.

Personal experience.

My own experience of this kind of working environment, where there were people that needed control, I include myself in this. A situation where certain personalities didn't belong together and didn't communicate with each other, was tough. There was jealousy, an imaginary power struggle, underhanded tactics and almost all-round unacceptable behaviour.

After talking with the other people, as opposed to everyone giving the impression their working lives are fantastic, this type of behaviour isn't so scarce, personalities and a lack of appreciation are amongst the biggest reasons they don't enjoy going to work.


I know understand what happens within these environments, why people feel they can act in the way they do.

Why I personally was comfortable fighting, not backing down and inevitably, ending up almost dead.

When I became healthy, I realised, as many of these other people did, the worst thing for me would be to return to that environment, even being 'armed' with a new understanding of the situation and being in a much better place mentally.

I've already mentioned I'd had enough of the fighting; this was a perfect opportunity to end it.


During the many discussions concerning working environments, deadlines, time slots and results were often the topic of conversation. The pressure to finish the job on time, when unforeseen issues have arisen making it difficult, accompanied by a lack of support. A boss that is only interested in results, not issues. Colleagues that bend the rules, to achieve whatever it is they want, no matter of the consequences.


Constants seem to be personalities, low self-value or perception, the business itself or the working environment. With more self-awareness, you gain a better self-perception, it also allows you to have a greater knowledge of the people around you. Your ability to deal with situations would be significantly enhanced. Leading to a more enjoyable life experience, both socially and professionally.

State of being.

  • How we think is how we feel.
  • How we feel is how we think.
  • When we repeatedly think negatively, we will feel negative.
  • When we think positively, we will feel positive.
  • Our personality creates our personal reality.
  • When we focus on a problem, we experience a mood, over time if left unchecked, it'll eventually become our state of being.

Be the best version of yourself. I hope this site inspires you to make a change.

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