Locus of Control.

Do you feel that you are in control of your destiny, you create situations, or they arise, and you are able rectify or deal with them, using determination and emotional grit? Or is it out of your hands, fate or luck will decide what happens. Wondering why these awful things keep happening to you? Do you feel like there's nothing you can do about them, and wonder how much longer they will go on?

Locus of control is a psychological term; it describes how a person believes they can control the events they experience in their lives. There are two types, internal and external, either, having an influence on how you respond to situations, but also the motivation to take address them. Which category do you fall into? 


Having an external locus of control, means you will feel that you aren't in control of your destiny. Things happen to you and you wonder why, your actions or behaviours had nothing to do with them.

  • Are more likely to suffer with anxiety, depression and stress.
  • Want others to lead the way.
  • Avoid responsiblity.
  • Find apportioning blame easier, neglecting to look at themselves.
  • Feel like they are a victim.


An internal locus of control, would mean you believe you are in control, your actions and behaviours having an effect on your life, good or bad.

  • Have the confidence they can be successful.
  • Are frequently leaders.
  • Display greater control over their actions.
  • Have a desire to learn as much as possible.
  • Take personal responsibility for their behaviour.
  • Use difficulties, challenges to emerge stronger than they were previously.
  • Embrace change, thriving on it.
  • Are less likely to submit to authority.


When I think about this subject, I'm still not a hundred percent sure I know what was going on, for so long I hadn't really known who I was, what was going on with my life. When I was younger, I was driven, training whenever possible and playing rugby at a higher level, enjoying my music, loving to learn (what I enjoyed) and progressing in life. At this time accepting, not being selected for a particular team, for instance, was due to the other guys ability.

Then it stopped, I began to learn only what was needed, and nothing more. Blaming other people and feeling like there was nothing constructive I could do about my situation, the only options I could think up, potentially causing more destruction. It was like being stuck in the middle of nowhere, one-minute fighting, I won't do it. The next thinking, I can't do it, or I had no control over it. It was simply a mess, conflicted, and extremely confusing.

Deep within me, I knew this wasn't me, it was one of the things I hated and couldn't deal with.


Writing this, I feel like the real me, and have done for some time. I am creating my future, I consider myself successful, and I love learning as much as I can, whenever I can. I've taken my experience and I've grown, I am a stronger person now, than I ever have been as an adult.

I am also fully aware, there is a danger of my controlling personality trait, becoming prevalent. This is something I'm not prepared to allow, and so must bear this in mind.

A Degree of control.

This means then, if I believe my locus of control, had shifted, or was altered, becoming more externally focused. Now believing that it has shifted internally, which feels more comfortable to me, there is no reason why this can't consciously be done by anybody.

It is not feasible and not achievable to control everything; some things are beyond our control. We all possess an internal and external locus of control, by learning to take control of our actions and take responsibility for our lives, shifting from an external locus of control to a more inwardly focused locus of control, we can recover from depression, raise our self-esteem and bolster our confidence. We can then begin to achieve the goals we set for ourselves.

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Be the best version of yourself. I hope this site inspires you to make a change.

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