After hitting another “Rock Bottom” 12 years ago,
I decided that I wanted more in life.
I created a vision of my new Identity,
and it immediately became the new me.
I’d decided I wasn’t going to be the guy in white, ever again.
Sitting in his leather office chair, holding it all together as he fought for his identity,
the business he’d grown to hate, and a lifestyle that had been killing him at an increasing rate.
Stressed out, worrying about the future, frustrated, angry, and unable to sleep.
Controlling, forcing, hustling and grinding.
Living in overdrive,
sympathetic dominance,
then functional freeze.
Performing at a high level
while at the same time underperforming.
For too long he’d read the room (hypervigilant)
stuck in dysregulation, unable to naturally
flow with the ups and downs of life.
His system automatically adapted to the
environment, particularly toxic ones (office).
He was stuck in the stress response.
Which he’d been managing since childhood.
Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Eventually Fawn.
The next stage is shutdown (Nervous System)
and then collapse, which is what happened in 2014,
because living this way isn’t sustainable…
…It takes vast amounts of energy.
He’d ticked the boxes of being successful,
a director/partner in a thriving business,
earning good money, driving great cars,
wearing designer clothes, attending EVENTS,
He had a good-looking girlfriend that he would
rarely spend time with, for numerous reasons.
For decades he’d felt empty/hollow inside,
chasing his fix to find the Intensity outside
that he was living with on the inside.
It was impossible to find balance, calmness,
peace, equilibrium without stimulation using
activities, substances, and environments.
He’d lost his edge by “Holding on Too Tight”
And he decided to take it back.
By addressing the most important issues first.
Who Do You Want to Become?
What Does Your New Life Look and Feel Like?