As a High Achiever, are you listening to Eckhart?
Tony, Dr Joe, Abraham, or reading The Secret?
The Self-Help and Coaching Industry,
in My Opinion, is aimed at The People,
Who Don’t Know How to Get What They Want in Life.
High Achievers Don’t Have This Issue.
If you feel stuck, disconnected, and unable to be present.
And you’ve been living this way for a prolonged period.
Your nervous system is likely in sympathetic dominance.
If this state has gone on too long,
it can lead to functional freeze,
a protective down‑regulation.
Fight. Flight. Freeze. Fawn – BIOLOGY.
It would be incorrect to discount your thought,
thinking, or concern about your business,
career, relationships, future, and life.
Many “Experts” will tell you it’s learned helplessness,
or that you are not your thoughts.
That’s not what happens to high achievers.
Where your perception of the external environment is,
of course, important, the environment itself cannot be ignored.
High-pressure environments come with stressful situations,
and other high achievers who are likely living in a similar state to you.
Often, this begins before you were born, had words for it,
and then the conditioning most discuss begins.
Parents, Siblings, Peers, Teachers, Society, and Experiences.
You’ve likely been controlling, forcing,
hustling, and grinding – possibly your whole life.
It’s all you know, it’s all I knew…
…but you probably don’t understand the cost.
Chronic stress + overdrive + frustration,
sleepless nights + coping mechanisms
= functional underperformance, and disease.
I lived this.
You can stop it.
But surface-level advice won’t cut it.
You must go deeper.
IDENTITY sits at the top, everything else is
A PASSENGER…
By 2010,
I had disintegrated so badly
within my personality/health/life
that my identity was operating entirely
from survival… this is why I would never
support goal setting with unbridled drive.
I was in a prolonged threat state, and my
nervous system was doing exactly what it’s
designed to do – protect me.
Survival wearing the drive mask
had gone on far too long.
My system was screaming danger,
and I was overriding it with my intellect,
doubling down on control
instead of restoring safety,
then making constructive choices.
The 15-year systemic war
with my business partners
could have ended at any point.
In reflection, they wanted me out of their way.
My response was simple,
I would rather destroy myself than be
controlled or pushed out (an identity pattern)
of what I’d helped build.
My system was screaming: SURVIVE.
This is the nervous system and identity,
a mixture of Conscious – Unconscious.
In 2014, after pushing through burnout,
collapsing, shutting down,
and being unresponsive…
It slowed me down long enough
to
feel and think about
using the situation as fuel to move forward.
I understood quick fixes were worthless.
Sustainable change comes from addressing
THE WHOLE – Not pieces.
Autonomic Nervous System, Mind (Mindset), Emotions, Physical, and Spiritual.
The ANS and EMOTIONS are not the same.
It’s extremely difficult to embrace change
when you are living in survival.
Ask yourself – what I didn’t:
Do I want more
than my current identity is giving me?
Aliveness. Balance. Calm. Peace. Purpose. Health. Better relationships.
Fulfillment – without losing your edge.
The Conscious Edge | Insight