Success on Your Terms – Balance, Calm, Peace, Purpose,
Aliveness, Productivity, Awareness, and Fulfilment
without Losing Your Edge… Living Life on Your Terms.
Potential Health Issues Put a Stop to Our Plans.
It would have been incredible to go on this trip in 4x4s
to the Sahara with friends…
When we discovered a vaccination was required to
enter Senegal, I decided I’d not join them.
Previously, I would have been hugely disappointed
in missing out on this once-in-a-lifetime trip.
After consideration and weighing up the options,
it was too risky for my health, just to go on a trip.
The damage caused to my liver from years
of living a lifestyle to mask my problems
could have caused catastrophic results.
My regained health is primary…
I’ll not jeopardise it… I’m too grateful for it.
The beauty of sovereignty in your life.
It isn’t a mindset position – It’s a state of being,
which you can adopt in a moment.
Over time – you no longer operate from
chronic sympathetic dominance or functional freeze,
decisions stop being driven by fear, lack,
or the need for external validation.
You start operating from a regulated, integrated system,
one that can weigh options clearly, accept risk consciously,
and act from genuine choice rather than compulsion.
You make the decisions without attachment to outcomes
that are focused on your health, well-being, and success on your terms.
This means you can support others from a very healthy place
without feelings of missing out or a need for recognition.
It was fantastic to be there the day the guys left,
to follow their adventure,
and to be there to greet them on their return.
18000km – Mauritania 
– for Charity…
Over £13000 has been raised for charity 
There is a great deal of content out there…
… I’m 55,60,70 … what I’ve learned…
You can’t live in a world of if I’d known then,
what I know now,
I’d have done things differently.
ACCEPT WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW.
Decide you want more, and change now.
Don’t look back judgmentally,
or believe your thoughts about
others getting things “right” when you’re not.
It depends on your beliefs,
mine say…
I lived through ALL the EXPERIENCES in my life,
so others can choose a different path before
reaching a point where there’s more work.
The 4-minute mile…
Besides…
What I needed for years was to discuss my issues with someone who was prepared to listen deeply, who understood, and didn’t judge,
or tell me what was best for me, based on their own model of the world and unresolved issues.
When I did discuss my issues with a professional at 30,
they were passive in their approach and stuck rigidly to their model.
There was no mention of adaptability, flexibility,
or compassion for yourself…
which are crucial if you’re overriding your biology with your intelligence,
controlling, forcing, and pushing through, because it’s all you know.
“Your Business Partners have Issues of Their Own” didn’t help, doesn’t help…
A more appropriate approach…
What Can You Change to Change Your Life?
It just felt like they were regurgitating
what they’ve learned, read about in books, published papers … courses.
What it didn’t feel like – LIVED EXPERIENCE.
There were very few people I trusted…
… do you feel this way?
Most couldn’t understand, or admit to,
what I was living through daily,
the inner conflict, conflict in relationships,
my perception of myself and life…
My system was falling…
…I’d been polishing my armour for decades…
…one conflict and loss at a time.
How was anyone to know… or truly care
I didn’t understand it myself… as I do now.
Why did I had so much, but feel the way I did?
MANY saw things through the lens of…
He has it all… WHAT’S WRONG WITH HIM!
My body is sovereign, I AM SOVEREIGN,
and have been since I decided to take back my
power, to change my identity in 2014
as I was lying “BROKEN.”
in a hospital bed for 8 weeks.
Having agreed to go on the trip months before
out of friendship, not insecurities, I gave my
friends the reasons I’d not be joining them.
If you would like to know, let’s talk…
It was IMPORTANT to me that I showed my support by being there, not saying it, at the start, throughout the trip, and at the end.
This is different from the way I used to feel about
missing out on something, believing I’d not be
invited to the next event or trip.
Living Life on Your Terms… means you don’t
Lose but Gain…
Would You Like to Come on a Road Trip?
A Day Out with INEOS? he asked…
Yorkshire is Beautiful… a place to appreciate,
another great day, with my very good friend.
Real connection is hugely important to me…
With myself, others, & life.