As High Achievers, we are used to dealing with massive amounts of pressure;
it’s how you got to where you are today, the issue, it’s easy to associate stress/pressure
with success, as if it is a requirement, when it isn’t, not when your system is in balance.
I now understand, after reflecting on my life, that I’d normalised the way I felt very young.
The level of drive I had came from dysregulation across my system.
I’d lived in sympathetic dominance, then functional freeze, always chasing,
controlling, forcing, hustling, and grinding, focusing on more success,
then attempting to find artificial balance – regulation – calmness.
Given time, this leads to unbearable amounts and negative results in life.
The State Beyond Pressure.
My right collarbone is snapped in half in this photograph, which was taken in Hyde Park, London
after an accident on a cycling trip from Pisa to the Amalfi Coast, my nervous and immune systems,
are working correctly again, due to coherence, which means I’m not in pain.
Interestingly, I’d spent a week in London attending a TCCHE conference, where there were many
of the world’s widely accepted experts in the field of human development (2019).
When you reach coherence,
You stop chasing balance, you become it.
Your brain stops fighting itself.
Stress causes your brain to function below capacity,
coherence means it functions as a whole, at capacity.
Energy that was once used for survival
is free to flow back into creation.
The heart’s rhythm steadies.
Every system begins to communicate again.
Clarity returns – not as a thought,
but as a state of being.
That’s when everything changes.
Decisions stop coming from urgency and fear (nervous system).
Focus sharpens.
Performance expands without force.
This is where REAL CONFIDENCE comes from.
It’s when HEALING takes place.
It’s not just mindset or emotions…
…It’s the biology of flow.
These are the results of a recent HRV session using my monitor,
it shows how my autonomic nervous system is switching between the two branches.
Heart Rate Variability is a sign of coherence across the system.
Particularly, the autonomic nervous system, the sympathetic and parasympathetic branches.
Your nervous system, brain, and energy field
finally speaking the same language.
That’s what coherence is.
Not calmness – CAPACITY.
From that place, you don’t have to control outcomes.
You influence them – naturally, precisely, effortlessly.
That’s the next evolution.
Not the grind,
but the intelligence behind it.
Heart-Math Institute HRV research on Coherence.
What I’m discussing is far more than a mindset change.
You cannot mind-set your way to the life you want by gaining insight and reframing,
or learning better tools to continue living in sympathetic dominance.
To use what you’ve been using for years, your intelligence, to override your biology.
This is system-wide integration and regulation.
It begins with asking yourself the question –
Who must I become to live the life I want?
Identity level change is the only way you’ll find balance, calmness, peace
aliveness, connection, contentment, productivity, purpose, and fulfillment
without losing your edge.
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