๐๐ข๐ ๐ก ๐๐๐ก๐ข๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ – ๐ข๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง
๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐ ๐จ๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐
Then You Must Change at the Level of Identity
Recently in Marrakesh,
once again,
we ended up in an Irish bar.
One of the guys looked at me and thoughtfully
asked, โAre you okay with this?โ
I smiled.
โWith what?โ
He meant the alcohol.
The environment and old association.
I replied – when I changed my life back in 2014,
I changed on the level of identity.
Bars, pubs, clubs, restaurants, alcohol,
and the many other things I’ve often discussed,
cars, clothes, position in life,
stopped being who I was.
Not because Iโm fighting an urge.
Because the version of me that used alcohol,
and quick fixes to escape, to numb, to belong,
doesnโt exist anymore.
Alcohol became irrelevant the day I said,
I donโt drink anymore, it’s at this point,
I stopped focusing on it.
That wasnโt a rule – it was a recognition:
Iโd been using it (and the environments that came with it) to distract myself from the way
I felt about myself and life.
When I changed my mindset, started regulating
my nervous system, processing emotions, and
rebuilding my self-concept
from the inside out – my perception of myself.
I’d decided – who I was going to beโฆ
I didnโt need distraction, or escape any longer.
It’s living life on my terms – consciously.
A subject we discussed in more depth later.
So now whether Iโm in a bar in Marakesh
a club in Barcelona, or London,
watching rugby in Ireland (which I did less than a year after leaving ICU) itโs the same.
No temptation – judgment – or drama.
Because when you change your identity,
you donโt have to resist the old life.
You simply outgrow it.
Thatโs the difference between
behaviour changeโฆ
โฆand transformation.
If You’re Done Trying to Fix Your Habits, and You’re Ready to Step into an Identity that no Longer Needs Themโฆ DM me TRANSFORM.