We live in a busy world, children, work, along with a whole host of other activities and tasks we must get done. When I myself went to counselling there was the added issue, I couldn't possibly let anyone see me talking about my mental health, or that I might need some assistance with my life. Ending up driving around sixty miles, to simply talk.
My attitude to mental health and asking people for help in life, has changed dramatically. I'm quite comfortable discussing the situation I was in openly. More than that though, I understand how, by asking people for help, it has made my recovery less difficult. Allowing, family and friends, plus my own coach to support me in this journey, has made for a favourable result.
I understand though, when people are suffering themselves, or feel stuck. Maybe needing a little help, this isn't the case for everyone, this will change I assure you.
What are we going to achieve.
Reading through the website, you'll probably have a fair idea of where I myself was, and where I currently am in my own life. Personally, I cannot remember being this calm and confident, allowing me to be comfortable being the person I truly feel I am. The peace I now possess in my mind is incredible, I don't recall life ever being this good, over an extended period.
I believe, I have a responsibility to help people achieve these things, and much more, if that is what they desire. The beauty of this work, once we start along the path, it's amazing what we can achieve.
Anxiety, depression and stress, from my experience was exagerated by a lack of knowledge, in how to deal with every aspect of myself, or other people, in a positive way. Not knowing myself, at that deep level, being unaware of what I could achieve without forcing it to happen.
How I'd fallen into the trap, that society has set for us, when we are unaware, living unconsciously. I'd learned how to run away from life, to distract and numb myself, never dealing with issues in a constructive manner.
The realisation of these facts, basically meant, that I could unlearn the way I was living, Construct a new way of living, whch fits the person I want to be. This is applicable to anyone, the degree to which that person wants to change, is entirely upto them. As I've said, we are all individuals, unique.
A CHANGE IN MINDSET
Reprograming your conscious mind.
Dealing with our thoughts, our relationship with them, the significance of identifying with them and the perpetual cycle of feeling and thinking.
Our perception of our environment, the way we deal with it and the effect on our health, wellbeing and overall success in enjoying our lives.
We will discuss moving on from past experiences, letting go of the past, and do it. Changing our awareness, creating solutions, becoming aware of how we talk to ourselves.
Reprograming your sub-conscious mind.
Using our conscious mind, we can re-program our subconscious mind. We can want things to be different in our lives, to have success in one or more aspects of it, if the subconscious is unaware of what we want to be different. Or we have self-limiting beliefs about ourselves, nothing will change in our lives.
Our beliefs dictate what actions we will take in order to achieve what it is we want. Discovering what these beliefs are, and changing them, will lead to a successful outcome.
Once we accertain the story we have been telling ourselves, about ourselves and life. We can change it, together we can re-write that story, enabling you to understand, it's probably not true anyway.
Raising your vibration.
Raising our level of consciousness (see illustration, it's all about energy) to a level above 500. Is when things really begin to happen in our lives, in a positive way, life gets easier and becomes more enjoyable.
When we are stuck, and we aren't manifesting the things we want in life. It can feel like this is unattainable, I can tell you, it most definitely is! Discussing issues, that may need to be resolved, is the most efficient way of resolving them.
Having a sounding board, someone that won't judge, only help. With experience of changing their own mindset and becoming successful in the areas of life which have been focused on. Means that you will achieve results, rapidly, but which are sustainable.
It has been said that EQ is more important that IQ. Building a better level of emotional intelligence, allows us to be prepared for all eventualities in our lives. By finding out who we are, on a level that we've not previously known, gives us a much better insight into ourselves and other people.
Fitness and Relaxation.
How are you going to get fit, or maintain your level of fitness, with such a busy life? Our environment isn't just our thoughts and the area in which we live. We also need to be aware of the fuel we put in our body, because that's what it should be, not just food.
Processed foods and refined sugars, the impact on our body they have and the way we function.
There are many ways for us to maintain cardiovascular and muscular fitness, these aiding in overall mental health also. As discussed under body & mind.
My offer to you.
I have put much thought into this, I would like to provide a high quality, consistent service to my coachees. Where they receive personalised therapy, personal growth, along with mentoring, allowing them to move forward in life. This being provided at a 'reasonable' price to both you and myself, with the number of sessions being kept to a minimum.
Utilising...One to One therapy, in whatever way was deemed preferable and building a relationship, is an effective way of resolving emotional issues you may be experiencing. Along with the other services offered, this adding to your quality of life.
I would be available to answer emails, texts, and messages in general. I would also make telephone calls and discuss issues, outside of sessions, where it was needed and convenient to do so.
The positives technology offers us, when used correctly, are fantastic. Utilising products like google duo, skype, or zoom, we can converse with you in the comfort of your own home.
I understand that where change is an important decision, enabling you to achieve what you want. Have a positive impact on your overall health, happines and future well-being, you feel like you just don't have the time.
Maybe this is something you are attempting to address, you shouldn't waste the extra time travelling to a meeting, when there is no need to do so.
Using a telephone, tablet, or laptop, video calling is so easy these days. The ability to see each other while holding an important conversation, on the move, at home, or at work is an incredible way to communicate.
Good old telephone.
A conversation on the telephone can work wonders, discussing something bringing quick resolutions to immediate issues that are causing probelms.
Communication by text messaging, whatsapp, or email is an easy way of maintaining our relationship. Also adding another way to document, or record our corrospondence.
A great way to coach and discuss, is walking outdoors in nature. This is less intimidating for some people and less formal. Sitting down over a coffee and discussing issues that are troubling you, that allow for that moment of silence where you don't feel awkward in any way. There is the option of visiting my office, if that was your preferred method, I don't have a specific preference. We could mix them up, this would offer flexibility, it's up to you. Let me know what you would prefer to do moving forward.
Initial consultation (free).
It's extremely important, we feel comfortable working together. We won't produce the desired result if you don't feel relaxed and believe you will obtain the outcome you desire. The conversation would normally be held over the telephone, video calls are obviously an option.
We could also hold a meeting at my office, the purpose of the discussion being to ascertain your requirements.
I also have friends that are in the business of adventures, a great way of getting over your growth edges, out of your comfort zone. Climbing, coasteering, gorge walking, rapids and rivers.
I'll come cycling with you, there you can challenge yourself and talk while you're doing it. There's even the option of an extended period of coaching, cycling over a weekend in Majorca for instance. This is inexpensive, get's you away from your connection to 'YOU', the people and places you associate with who you are and there is potential to make real progress.
If there was anything else, more specific to your needs, a fear of driving as example, call me.
Number of sessions.
The average number of sessions will be between 3-9, this however, would be dependent on the issue you have and the length of time you have been living with it. Deep seated issues could require more sessions, in order to resolve them. Multiple issues, would obviously be more complicated and would likely take longer to resolve.
From personal experience, I'd been living with many issues, which I'd suffered with for many years. However in relative terms, it didn't take too long before I'd made real progress. This was achieved because I'd made a commitment to resolving the issues as quickly as possible, plus, once the process begins, it snowballs quickly.
I will also ask for feedback from you, what did you take away from today's session?, for example. This would allow us to keep track of our progress.
We would also discuss your progress in general, as we move toward the end goal. I believe we should both be comfortable, we are moving in the right direction and obtaining results.
1.5 hours £140
- Standard session length.
- Internet, using the preffered technology
- We are all busy, why travel when you don't need to?
2 hours £180
- Preferred session length.
- Affording us the time to discuss and gain a complete understanding of how we move you forward.
3 hours £270
- Travelling any real distance for a session, this is probably the best option.
- I took this option when meeting with my coach, it can be a along and tiring day out.
- It's sensible to offer a longer session, allowing you to obtain the most benefit from your journey.
Intensive £500 per day, plus expenses.
Session frequency would initially be weekly, this could be extended. Financial circumstances, time and response to the work will have a bearing on this. We can discuss this as we move forward, it is flexible and depends how quickly you'd like to obtain the results.
Payment is made at the end of every session, in cash, or by bank transfer. There is also the option of paying before the session, using bank transfer, or PayPal, if the session is remote. Any cancellation without 24hrs notice will be charged at the full rate, agreed upon, for the time allocated for the missed session.